The pearl of the 21-year-old Elche is the objective of Rome, which sees in it a player capable of directing the operations of a Champions team from the center of the field. Villar, international U21 with Spain, is a midfielder of great management, with leadership skills to carry the weight of the team and a very high quality quota. It would not be strange to see him at the next Tokyo Olympics. “We’re going to sign a young midfielder, someone who can be the future of this team.” Gianluca Petrachi, sports director of Rome, yesterday set his team’s goals in the market before the duel against Juventus. The giallorosso club wants to maintain its commitment to youth and quality. In that sense, as AS has learned, the managers of the capital entity have set their sights on Gonzalo Villar. The interest is strong. Valencia has an option.Its termination clause is now 25 million euros and 80% of its economic rights belong to Valencia. Although the player is not assigned in Elche. It is owned by the Illicitano club until June 2021. Valencia also has a right of first refusal on the Murcia midfielder, in the event that a third team wants to take it, as is the case. Villar is being one of the great sensations of Second Division under Pacheta. A player already with hierarchy in the team’s engine room despite his youth.Villar is also an adaptable player. In Elche he has been able to form in the double pivot, his most usual position, or to advance his position somewhat to form in a 4-2-3-1 closer to the tip. With Paulo Fonseca, Rome has been moving precisely more in that last drawing, which would fit perfectly with the characteristics of Murcian talent.
Having sex for the first time is nerve wracking but it isn’t the only time when the thought of sex can feel daunting. Many of us will go through periods of abstinence later in our lives and the thought of engaging in sexual activity again can spark feelings of insecurity.There are a variety of reasons why someone might have experienced an extended amount of time without having sex (divorce, a breakup, the loss of a loved one, or difficulty meeting the right person) and often by the time we get round to having sex again it feels as if we are back to square one with our sexual confidence.Here, we speak to Valeria Chuba, PhD, MS, ACS, a board certified clinical sexologist and a certified intimacy coach. She helps her clients overcome sexual shame and anxiety, achieve sexual confidence, and create pleasure-filled intimate relationships. She is the creator and host of the Get Sex-Smart podcast, which offers expert information and guidance to listeners around the world.‘Finding that special spark with a new partner can often take a long time,’ she explains. ‘Regardless of the reasons why we may find ourselves without a lover, when the time comes to get back into the groove, most of us experience feelings of fear, anxiety and low self-confidence.’So, to help anyone who is feeling less than empowered about the idea of a new sexual encounter, we asked Valeria to give us some practical advice on how to feel less nervous and more confident when starting a new sexual relationship…1. Learn from the pastEach new relationship offers a promising beginning, which means an opportunity to do things differently and better than before. ‘Now is the perfect time to look back at your past sexual experiences,’ Valeria advises.‘What were some of the things that worked well (or didn’t work) in your intimate relationships? What partners were the most memorable, and why? What would you like to do differently this time around? For example, would you speak up more about your need for sensual foreplay, or share more of your sexual imagination with your partner? Getting clarity around your needs and boundaries will help you start a new sexual relationship in a more proactive way, which in turn will help you feel more safe and grounded.’2. Know what gives you pleasure‘As a sexologist, I often tell my clients that masturbation is the foundation for partner sex,’ says Valeria.‘The more you know about what turns you on and helps you experience pleasure and orgasm, the better you’ll be able to share these things with your partner, leading to a more positive intimate experience.’Reacquainting yourself with your body in this way will help you to first accept and then to gain confidence when it comes to being with someone else. It’s easy to forget the positive things about our body when we are feeling insecure and focusing on the parts we don’t like as much.‘If you are new to self pleasure or just want to broaden your sexual repertoire, sex-positive books like Come As You Are or fun and instructional sex ed DVDs will both inform you and spark your sensuality.‘It’s important to note that you should always consider seeking professional help for specific sexual concerns, like trouble experiencing orgasm with a partner, early ejaculation, erectile difficulties, or performance anxiety. Working with a sex-positive, compassionate professional can be a huge boost to your sexual confidence.’3. Communication is key‘I often tell my clients that they should begin a new relationship as they mean to go on; and good communication is a big part of any successful sexual relationship,’ says Valeria.‘There are few things more attractive in a lover than the confidence to speak up about his or her needs and desires, and the ability to listen to his or her partner. Speaking up improves your chances of getting what you want from your sexual relationship; and being accepting of your partner will make him or her feel special and appreciated.‘Either way, you will come across as a generous and thoughtful lover, which is sure to boost your self-confidence.’4. Focus on pleasure and not performanceWhenever we begin a new relationship, especially after a long time without partner sex, we tend to feel anxious about things like our attractiveness; our size, shape and weight; and how well we will ‘perform’ during sex.‘This mindset keeps us caught up in our heads and disconnected both from our bodies and pleasure, and from our lovers and the process of lovemaking. Whenever you feel yourself getting caught up in performance pressure, focus instead on your body sensations. Breathe deeply and if need be, slow down. Pay attention to how things feel as opposed to how perfect you appear to be.‘As a bonus, a lover who is focused on pleasure and sensuality comes off as a lot more empowered and confident than someone who is insecure about their “performance”.’5. Have a sense of humourSex can be complicated and intimidating at the best of times, let alone when we’ve been celibate for an extended period. Because of this, we tend to forget that at its core, sex is about connection, pleasure and fun.And since partner sex happens between bodies, it can also be a messy, embarrassing and unintentionally hilarious experience.Using this as a point of connection with your lover, rather than something to be ashamed of, can help you lighten things up. Chances are your partner is also feeling nervous, so bonding lightheartedly over your shared anxiety and the absurdity of it all can be both relaxing and very, very sexy.Source